It Is Not Good For Man to Be Alone
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“Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.”  Hebrews 10:25

Over the years, I have heard many people tell me they don’t need a church. They can just study the Bible for themselves. They don’t need to go to a church that is filled with hypocrites, even if there is always room for one more. However, you can’t have a “one-person” church and fulfill the counsel in Hebrews 10:25. By setting up His church, God does more than command us to study and worship. He commands us to do more than spread the gospel by ourselves. Hebrews 10:25 is a command to be social. Paul does not merely say, “Do not give up hope and do not stop studying the Scriptures. He says, “Do not stop meeting together in a social setting.”

Paul, of all people, knew the importance of a church. Once he was converted in Acts 9, God directed him to the city where he met Ananias and Barnabas and the rest of the church. Even though Paul had a one-on-one encounter with God, he still needed to understand the importance of living and growing in a church setting.

Paul counseled us to keep being social, because he knew it was not good for man to be alone. Now think about this for a moment. God creates Adam. Adam has God and God has Adam. Yet God does not say, “Adam has Me, and I am all that he needs.” No, God Himself says, “It is not good for man to be alone.” Genesis 2:18

Now let this soak in. God Himself is saying, “I am not all Adam needs! He needs a community.”

If you believe God is all you need and that you don’t need anyone else in your life, then you are contradicting the God you serve! He Himself says He is not all you need. You need a community of believers. God created a mate for Adam, and thus fulfilled some other obvious needs of Adam, but ultimately they fulfill God’s purpose of creating a community. God knew Adam needed more than just to be able to worship God alone. He needed to be able to worship and serve God with a community of believers.

If you ever date someone who tries to isolate you from your family and friends, be very concerned about that. If their love is a Godly love, they will love like God and encourage you to be social and active in your family and community. If God Himself realizes we need more in our lives than just Him, how dare a mere mortal human being tell us they are all we need!  If their love is from God they will not be egotistical and tell us we don’t need anyone but them. God’s love is a healthy love which does not isolate. A love that tries to isolate is very unhealthy.

Worshiping in a social setting such as a church, means we will meet hypocrites, and they will meet hypocrites when they meet us. Hypocrites are just people who do not live up to all of their ideals, and that is all of us. But by God’s grace, He is getting us there and will get us there. In the meantime we need each other to get there.

I have a community Bible study where people of all faiths are invited to our church on Wednesday mornings. One morning an elderly lady said something that has always stayed with me. She said, “If someone in the church keeps rubbing you the wrong way, maybe God is just using them to polish your character.” I think she is right. God says it is not good for us to be alone. We need a community of believers. Some will encourage us, and even those we don’t get along the best with, will help polish our characters.

We need each other!

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It Is Not Good For Man to Be Alone — 24 Comments

  1. "amen" it is not Good for man to be alone! If I were alone I was going to die without knowing God! ...Today am an 7th day Adventist because of the community of believers!! In this jounery we really need each other for us to rich the destination!!

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  2. Hebrews 10:25 “…not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as is the manner of some, but exhorting one another, and tso much the more as you see uthe Day approaching.”

    So, ... Not good for man to be alone is better spelt in 1 Corinthians 12 as follows:
    Just as a body, though one, has many parts, but all its many parts form one body, so it is with Christ. 13 For we were all baptized by[a] one Spirit so as to form one body—whether Jews or Gentiles, slave or free—and we were all given the one Spirit to drink. 14 Even so the body is not made up of one part but of many.
    15 Now if the foot should say, “Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason stop being part of the body. 16 And if the ear should say, “Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason stop being part of the body. 17 If the whole body were an eye, where would the sense of hearing be? If the whole body were an ear, where would the sense of smell be? 18 But in fact God has placed the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be. 19 If they were all one part, where would the body be? 20 As it is, there are many parts, but one body.
    21 The eye cannot say to the hand, “I don’t need you!” And the head cannot say to the feet, “I don’t need you!” 22 On the contrary, those parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, 23 and the parts that we think are less honorable we treat with special honor. And the parts that are unpresentable are treated with special modesty, 24 while our presentable parts need no special treatment. But God has put the body together, giving greater honor to the parts that lacked it, 25 so that there should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other. 26 If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.
    27 Now you are the body of Christ, and each one of you is a part of it.

    Question:
    1. If you didn’t like the appearance of some of your teeth, do you simply go to the dentist and have him/her extract them? Of course not, since natural teeth are irreplaceable, it would be prudent to work on improving its appearance first – and so it is with worshipping amongst people who don’t think or behave like you do. Maybe God has placed you there to shape them up. You do not simply run away from them and have them perish.
    2. So, what is the purpose of pressing together?
    Many people do not realize the privilege of joint worship until the privilege is taken away. If you have ever visited countries where religious liberties are restricted, you know what I mean. It is easier to keep the fire burning when all pieces of wood are placed together; separate them and the fire dies out. Simply stated as, “United we stand, divided we fall.” If you think you can keep your one piece of wood burning separately under your roof, might be a good idea to revisit that thought.

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  3. Thank you William for sharing such an important subject of our spiritual journey here on earth that greatly assist us safely to that heavenly Canaan. And this is God's will for His children to pull together as a family of believers for our safety. I am reminded of this passed Central California Conference Campmeeting when the current speaker of The Breath Of Life ministries preached about the lost sheep and how the sheep a defenseless animal towards its Predators and rely totally on the shepherd for guidance and safety. After the service i was privaledged to commune with a young man who gave his testimony earlier of his experience as an IRS employee. He made a comment about the sermon that morning of how the sheep have no defence when attack by its predators. This young man shared with me a very important truth about the sheep and its defence. The sheep strength is within the herd. As long as the sheep stay together as a herd, wolves and other predators will have a difficult time to attack. Often we see this on films, how wolves watch the herd for stray sheeps from the herd to make their attack. The Spirit of Prophecy adviced about new truths introduce into the church and how in the councel of many, there is safety and not by a single individual. We see this in the church today with the spirit of independance that always resulted in perlexity and confusion among God's dear children and this is the spirit of Satan to kill and destroy God's people. I am so attached to my church family that I can't go through a day without a thought or a prayer on their behalf. The church is the apple of God's eye and Jesus our good Shepherd is constantly on the lookout for His church even unto the end. Praise God for the knowledge of His loving kindness we are biessed with and we are obligated to admonish one another with this Truth of His Will for us. Wishing all of you the spirit of thanksgiving on this traditional day to share the love of Jesus with someone.

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  4. I realized that it's so easy to see every one's fault, but the Holy Spirit shows me that I have my short comings, so instead of criticizing I pray for my brothers and sisters.

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  5. Dear William,

    Always a powerful and pertinent message through your postings. I especially like the "rubbing up the wrong way" story, much like someone in our daily life. Someone that could be troubled and looking for help but doesnt quite know how to go about doing it the "right" way. Someone that God is placing in front of us to touch with His love.

    God's rich blessings this Sabbath eve. ulalei

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  6. One person is not a community, community consist of two or more and the church is a community of believers. We can therefore appreciate and understand, within the context of community, what Jesus in Matthew 18:20 said, "For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them" and this does not mean that He is not with us individually.

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  7. I get a lot more out of the lessons online then I ever did on my own with just the lesson book, I been to other sites where the lesson is taught but I enjoy this site a lot better for the easy references and bible study extra comments, I also like the translation genius. I have a teacher that brings the lessons more to life than others have but I wonder where he gets the extra light that brings the lessons even closer to view in the times they were living in.... Is their not another additional information available besides the references of Spirit Of Prophecy or maybe added information (which is excellent material) I can go to to get even more insight to the times the lessons are talking about?

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  8. Thank you all for your contributions to our online community at SSNET. While we enjoy our actual Sabbath School classes, where we meet with others, our community here brings the world together, as we are able to get different points of views from different cultures, and if we live in a remote part of the world, we don't feel so alone once we log onto the Sabbath School Network. Thank you all again for being a part of our community.

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  9. Hi William,

    We do need community. We can learn something from everyone. Some of our emotional and intellectual needs are met thru friendships.
    In church, we can grow spiritually and every way if we are open.
    I do not think everyone is a hypocrite. There are honest people that don't hold ideals in front of themselves, but try to live day by day the best they can with a humble heart.
    Thanks for a great post. Happy Sabbath!

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  10. Without a doubt we need each other. God sometimes speaks to us most clearly in that still small voice. Other times we get His message quite plainly from His Word. But too often we aren't listening to His Spirit or spending the time we need in the Scriptures, so He speaks through people who can get our attention. And what better people could He use than those who know the power of His grace.
    Sometimes, indeed, we may be hypocrites, actors. Isn't that who the Laodicean message is for? Yet, He expects us to be holy (1 Peter 1:16), pure and sincere (1 Peter 1:22). If we are still hypocrites, and not holy, pure and sincere, then we need to be born again (1 Peter 1:23). Only through those who are new creations, who are in full agreement with God, can He most effectively work the ministry of reconciliation (2 Corinthians 5:17-18). May God help us all to "be reconciled to God" (2 Corinthians 5:20).

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  11. Thank you for the article, although I have a huge problem with people. I know this is not of God and I pray that he will work in me and heal me. I am after leaving my local church a few months ago (Baptist) because the Sabbath truth has been revealed to me, thank you Lord, but I am finding it hard to socialize these days, people burden me and provoke bad in me. Why? The only conversations that don't end up in bad feelings/thoughts/exhaustion afterwards are those with my children and with God. For the rest people make me tired, awake desire for argument and criticism, my whole being is screaming inside if I happen to be in a social situation for longer than I can take. I then separate, do a little self-talk and realize all these good things, that God is testing us, teaching us through others, uses us to help others, etc, I even feel love for others, but when apart from them. In the mids rarely I am comfortable with a person. Why? I do have an understanding of the importance of getting together, but am a better child of God and a better person when apart, this is a very bad thing, right?

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    • Liana,

      I totally understand your experiences. When I was raising my son, he was my priority and I didn't hardly socialize with adults. I find adults very difficult in general and they do provoke many emotions out of me that surprise me. These experiences make me keep remembering God. Hang in there and pray for His unconditional love. It's the only thing that keeps me going...His love for me and my changed heart that is learning to love the unlovable.

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      • Thank you for your support and encouragement, Jane, you are right, it is a daily battle with the flesh, the world, and the god of this world. I do think, however, that God's love is conditional, one of the conditions being forgiveness, there is an eternal IF (Matt 6:14). We are told to love the unlovable (do good things for them) but I don't necessary like them, or feel comfortable in between them. I keep repeating myself that I am not meant to be comfortable in this world any way, since it is not home.

        I agree with you, looking up (so we don't see what's around us), prayer, and His love, is what keeps me going too. God bless you.

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  12. now consider a designer who after givin instructions to how to use his product then later on the consumer brings a complaint that the product is not workin. What would you expect him (designer) to do when you hear that the consumer didn't follow the instructions? God as a designer knows what is best for you, when you miss the instruction you are definately despisin the one who made you. God will not be held accountable of what ever choice you made wrong after givin you clear directions. He himself gathered with israel when he said build me a house that I (God) be among you. Where do you think Jesus used to live in groups when luke said as He (Jesus) used to go to church? Then who are you to live alone? Wherever you read in the bible Jesus loved groups.

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    • Kirtla, I did mentioned that I understand the importance to fellowship. Thankfully God has recently led me to a wonderful small group of Adventists who's company and teaching I am enjoying truly. For the rest I think it's a matter of maturity, and I don't feel mature enough to mix with people (believers), who's behavior and reasoning stand in total opposition to God's Word, without ending up hugely upset and helpless (not to mention argumentative and severely critical), wanting to run as far away as possible (being disgusted with my own inability to hold back and be patient), but in the same time feeling I am being placed there for a reason.

      Having said all that I am given the opportunity, thank you Lord, to observe how mature Christians handle such situations, and perhaps it's a matter of time and learning.

      If your options were either mix with unrepentant sinners, or separate and be alone, what would you do? Both have consequences, either pollution (of many kinds) or submission (to the Word) which promise blessing.

      Lastly, we are never alone :-)

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  13. Liana, thank you for being so open and honest. None of us are perfect, and as we study and pray together God helps us to get along with others. Jesus loved being with people in the multitude, but He also loved His time alone with His Father, in private prayer. A lot of us love being with friends, and we enjoy our alone time too. Both are important. Neither should be forsaken.

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  14. It is certainly very true that man should not be Alone, and it hurts me very much when i see so many other men and women that have been Very Blessed By God to have met one another and have a Family just like i would had wanted as well. It is very hard for me after a divorce to meet a good woman this time around for me since so many women have certainly Changed over the years, and Not for the good at all. Women are much more Unfriendly these days which really makes it very difficult for us men that are really looking for a serious relationship, and many women are just so Very Nasty to talk too and don't want to be bothered at all.

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    • Paul, I am so sorry to read of your situation at this time. I hope I can share just a few thoughts. First, slow down and properly let God heal you from your divorce. It will take time. Get counseling and then put your life in the hand of He who said, "it is not good for man to be alone." As you trust Him in due time He will bring the right woman into your life. This is special time between you and your creator who knows exactly what you need. He will sustain you.

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  15. Paul I am very sorry you are having such a hard time. Please notice though, that this post is not about man needing a romantic relationship. It is about mankind needing an entire community. Of course without romance and marriage we would have no community! You make a broad statement about women. Do you really think it is fair to make those statements in such a broad way. Is that fair to the millions of nice caring women in our world today? Could not the same comments be said about men too? While we all feel the need of a community, we do not all feel the need to be in a romantic relationship. Some are like Paul the apostle who was too busy with his ministry to look for a wife. (See 1 Corinthians 7). Are the women you talk to really nasty or just not interested in a romantic relationship right now? I would guess, like any other group of people, some are and some aren't. Bashing women on an open forum is not going to make them act more nice towards you. I have met some women who have made it clear to me that they were not interested in me, even though I had expressed no interest in them! LOL At the same time though I have met and have many nice lady friends and I am just enjoying the friendships and seeing where God leads in each one. I would encourage you to take it easy. Enjoy the company of the nice ladies who enjoy your company, and leave the not so nice ones alone. Fact is, you don't have time to be friends with the whole world anyway, so the ones who are not so nice just make it easier for you to decide who to spend your time and efforts on. Seeing the best in women makes it easier for them to see the best in you. Meanwhile, enjoy being a part of a community.

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