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  1. Thinking only on yourself is the type of attitude that does not add much. At home, at church, at work, self centered work may be counterproductive. Although Christ treats everyone with distinctive and unconditional love, which is a reality that as christians we must internalize, wherever this love abounds perfect and collective deeds flow out! Only when self is centered on Jesus, the most vivid representation of God's love for His creatures, self-destruction is exchanged by real teamwork! Were this a reality, the whole world would not be in such a free fall to extermination. We fail to build more champion teams because we think too much on personal records! And this can be brought to work, family and marriage, or any other relationship. Only when we are "selfishly" filled by Jesus love we truly died to ego and most of our troubles vanish.

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  2. This lesson spoke to me. I was raised by a mother who said, “Always provide for your children. Men are gravey. Don’t count on them to help you.” I have always been the head of my house. The principal breadwinner. My husband and I have been married 35 years, 36 in November. He has been content to take care of the children and the house and work full-time, while I went to school and worked full-time. I took all the overtime I could get. I see now that I should have spent more time at home and been a co-parent with my husband. I always took my children and grandchildren to church, but my husband being Catholic didn’t go with us. He never went to his own church either. He comes to church with me now, but the kids think it’s because I make him go, which is not the case. Sometimes when I’m sick he goes by himself. He even goes shopping for potluck by himself!
    He remains a Catholic in name only because his mother was Catholic. I see now that I need to be a partner with Rob and not the boss.

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  3. A couple of all-too-common (and destructive) myths about selfishness:

    1) I frequently come across Christians who have unfortunately been raised to (mistakenly) believe that (a) drawing and maintaining healthy boundaries and/or (b) looking after themselves is 'selfish'.

    Self-renouncing (Agape) love is the essential foundational principle of abundant life. As such, it is the guiding principle for all healthy living. This principle means that your focus towards others is to advance their best interests.

    Note that this is not the same as giving others what they want. Sometimes another's best interests are in fact served by 'withholding' something they want from you because the thing they want is not actually in their best interests. 'Christian' domestic violence relationships frequently have the 'perpetrator' demanding that they be given what they desire and (wrongly) claiming that withholding such is selfishness.

    Phil 2:4 from today's lesson presents a more accurate view. In a healthy scenario, advancing the best interests of the other will also advance your genuine best interests. In an unhealthy scenario, the best interests of one party will be at the expense of the best interests of the other.

    2) I also find that many Christians mistakenly believe that taking care of themselves (genuine and healthy self-care) is 'selfish'. This is opposite to the truth. Because we are in the best position to advance another's best interests when we are as healthy as we can be, attending to genuine self-care enables us to best manifest self-renouncing (Agape) love.

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    • Hi Phi,

      I agree with you as I see this so much in my line of work. However, I think the lesson is simply but looking at ourselves and our own selfishness and asking God to change our hearts from the inside out. This lesson really spoke to my heart!

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    • Phil, thank you for that. I could not agree with you more. If we do not take care of ourselves spritually, physically and fiscally, we will be in no position to help others when a need arises.

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  4. In real selfishness cannot allow us to inherit the kingdom of God but we need to be prayerful and understand the need of helping others

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