[Thought Questions for Dealing with Fights February 10, 2015]
1. Introduction. What’s that? Fights among God’s people? Or fights by evil people that can do us damage? Let’s take a look in this week’s lesson about dealing with fights. Have you ever witnessed a snappy, angry exchange between two people who should care for each other? Or watched helplessly as a family falls to ruin by endless arguing and finding fault? Is there ever fighting or harsh disagreement among God’s people at church?
2. Sin and friends. How do you feel when a friend or family member does something downright sinful? Suppose a neighbor is rude to you—by leaving trash on your lawn, perhaps. Doesn’t that give you the right to let that person know what you think? The proverbs we consider this week says otherwise. What does it take to become a person who never lets wrath take over? Have you ever known such a person?
3. Words of deep waters. Have you ever hurt someone’s feelings? Or provoked tears? Have you ever been deeply hurt yourself by something someone said to you? A fellow church member I know once said to a fellow member, “You are the devil.” How should the accused have treated that person from then on? Have you ever been filled with a spiritual message that awoke in you a totally different and more marvelous concept than ever before? Should we try to explore the depths in our study of Scripture and our personal prayer life? And speak only words that are acceptable in the sight of God?
4. Closed minds and open mouths. Read Proverbs 18:7 and share what you think is happening in this short verse with a very short story. Can we benefit spiritually by listening to the counsel of others? What does it take to sift the counsel of others to be sure we are absorbing God’s will for us? How easy is it to have a closed mind and an open mouth? What about an open mind and a closed mouth? Is that good? Why or why not?
5. The truth is always better. TV Judge Judy sometimes says, “I can tell you’re lying. Your lips are moving.” What makes lying such a dreadful act? Would you lie to avoid a traffic ticket? An argument with husband or wife? Do people ever lie to God? To themselves? Do you ever say (or think), “It won’t hurt just this once.” What is the only sure way we can always tell the truth–and live it?