12: Healing Broken Relationships – Teaching Plan

Key Thought : Jesus longing for His church is for members to respect one another and live in Christian love and unity.

[Teaching plan for Healing Broken Relationships September 16, 2013]

1. Have a volunteer read 2 Timothy 4:11.

a. Ask class members to share a thought on what the most important point in this text is.
b. Why doesn’t forgiveness not always include a complete restoration of a previous relationship? Why doesn’t it always need to?
c. Personal Application : How can we learn to forgive those who have hurt or disappointed us? Have you forgiven everyone? Share your thoughts.
d. Case Study : One of your relatives states: I know I’m supposed to forgive that person who did me wrong, but she didn’t ask for or want my forgiveness. So I have no desire to forgive her. Why should I?” How would you respond to your relative?

2. Have a volunteer read I Corinthians 3:5-9

a. Ask class members to share a short thought on what the main idea of this text is.
b. Why do people have the tendency to adore the messenger instead of holding closely to the message? Example – I loved your sermon last week Pastor, greatest one I’ve heard. Pastor – what did I speak about? I forgot, but it was a great message. Is there a danger in getting too closely attached to a church leader, pastor, or evangelist?
c. Personal Application : Have you ever been jealous or envious of someone’s gifts in ministry or in any other area? Share your thoughts.
d. Case Study : One of your friends states, “Oh, I just love Doug Batchelor. I won’t listen to any other preacher but him. I was baptized in his meetings and he’s the greatest preacher in the church. Whatever he says, I’ll do it.” How would you respond to your friend?

3. Have a volunteer read Ephesians 4:26-32.

a. Ask class members to share a short thought on what the most important point is in this passage.
b. What does it mean to be angry and sin not and don’t let the sun go down on your anger? Can we be angry without sinning? Why is it a sin to hold onto that anger?
c. Personal Application : Do you have a forgiving spirit, or do you tend to hold a grudge? How can we develop more of a forgiving spirit? Why don’t we forgive very easily? Share.
d. Case Study : One of your neighbors states, “Being silent and taking abuse from others is not in my nature. I was taught to stick up for myself and demand my rights and respect. Nobody’s going to mess with me without me getting in their face.” How would you respond to your neighbor?

4. Have a volunteer read Matthew 18:15-17

a. Ask class members to share a short thought on what the main idea of this text is.
b. Why is it easier to talk about someone else’s faults instead of talking to them? Do we fear conflict or bad feelings? Share your thoughts.
c. Personal Application : Has anyone ever approached you according to Matthew 18? How did you feel? Was the experience positive or negative? Share your thoughts.
d. Case Study : Think of one person who needs to hear a message from this week’s lesson. Tell the class what you plan to do this week to share with them.

(Note : “Truth that is not lived, that is not imparted, loses its life-giving power, its healing virtue. Its blessings can be retained only as it is shared.” MH p. 149.



12: Healing Broken Relationships – Teaching Plan — 2 Comments

  1. As I reread Matthew 18:15-18, I realised something that has been an oversight to many; "...if he refuses, let him be as the publican and a heathen man..."
    Christ did not instruct us to seperate them but rather be more close to them them. Remember allegations against him,"...this man eats with sinners;and publicans.." and as he urges us to"...learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart..." Matthew 11:29.
    We must not forget that he longs to sup with us(sinners) at the table once we hear his knock and open~ Revelation 3:20.

    • If some choose to act like a "publican and a heathen", but we choose to act like Christ, then there will be an unavoidable clash. Yes, we should try to win them back, but "can two walk together unless they are agreed?" Amos 3:3

      If we try to "be more close to them" and in the process compromise our closeness to Christ in any way, then we lose our power to draw them closer to Christ. Here lies danger. "Conformity to worldly customs converts the church to the world; it never converts the world to Christ. Familiarity with sin will inevitably cause it to appear less repulsive. He who chooses to associate with the servants of Satan will soon cease to fear their master. (The Great Controversy, page 509)

      May God help us to both love our neighbor and love God supremely.


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